Sarcasm is definitely an art that is derived from a specific type of humor.
One that focuses largely on irony, and sometimes comes off as dry as the New Mexican desert. But it also takes a specific type of person to understand and use sarcasm well. And it turns out, the same type of person that gets labelled as ‘sarcastic,’ shares another common label: intelligent.
Yes, sarcastic people can now revel in the fact that a Harvard Business School studyclaims sarcasm is the “highest form of intelligence.” What they looked at in their study was whether or not sarcasm was a higher form of cognitive functioning.
Two of their studies found that, while sarcastic people definitely caused more conflict, they also exhibited greater creativity and intelligence following a sarcastic conversation or remark.
Taking it further, a third study discovered that the enhanced creativity of sarcastic people is due to increased capacity for abstract thought, meaning these aren’t your regular old jokes, people.
During a fourth study, researchers found something quite interesting: “when participants expressed sarcasm toward or received sarcasm from a trusted other, creativity increased but conflict did not.” This means that you might not mind this clever person cracking jokes at your expense if you actually like them.
If all of this weren’t convincing enough, they also found that IQ has a lot to do with how well people are able to pick up on sarcasm. Less intelligent people struggle to detect witty and clever remarks (which is probably for the best).
The Smithsonian says that “studies have shown that exposure to sarcasm enhances creative problem solving.” They also note that “scientists who have monitored the electrical activity of the brains of test subjects exposed to sarcastic statements have found that brains have to work harder to understand sarcasm.”
So if you’re the quick-witted, sarcastic friend in your group, don’t get down when people can’t handle your sly jokes. They benefit from having you around. And if you get frustrated from time to time at your sarcastic friend, remember that they’re only stretching that witty brain of theirs, and when they do so, it makes you smarter as well!
Why Some People Are MAGNETS for Bad Relationships
Have you ever known someone who always attracts the same bad relationships over and over again? Chances are, you have a friend (or two or three!) who always seems to attract cheaters, or losers, or jerks, or “unavailable” men/women.
From your observation, it probably seems like this friend is somehow a magnet for bad relationships.
Well the truth is, if your friend attracts the same kind of person over and over again, he or she actually IS a magnet, thanks to the Law of Attraction.
With the Law of Attraction, whatever we believe in and focus on becomes our reality. Our reality is an accurate reflection of our beliefs about the world and our place in it.
So, if we believe that all guys are cheaters, that will be our experience. If we focus on how much we dislike our current girlfriend, we’ll be attracted to another one just like her in the future. If we believe that we are going to be dumped, we’ll get kicked to the curb every time.
This is why it’s all too common to see someone attracting the same “bad relationships” over and over again. We may end up in different places, surrounded by different faces, but we often end up with the same kind of person over and over again.
Has this ever been your experience? Have you been a magnet for cheaters, or losers, or jerks or heartbreakers? Have you been a magnet for people who treat you poorly or people who are “unavailable?”
Well, if you have, the good news is that you can break the cycle whenever you want, and it’s an easy process when you’re ready to do it.
All it takes is a little investigating to figure out what beliefs you are putting out there that are attracting what you do not want. After all, if you can locate the magnet, you can throw it away and stop using it.
If you’d like to know why you are attracting the same kind of person over and over again, here’s a quick exercise to help you uncover the magnet and identify the limiting beliefs you are projecting about love and relationships.
Grab a pencil and a piece of paper, and at the top of it write “Why do I Attract _________ (Cheaters/Losers/Jerks/Etc)?”
Then, spend a few minutes and brainstorm every single reason you can think of that might explain why you are attracting this kind of person.
These can be statements about you, love, relationships or particular people. They can be about circumstances or events in your life. Any contributing factor that has led one of these bad girlfriends or boyfriends into your life can be considered, particularly if it’s a reason you feel strongly about or one that evokes a lot of frustration.
Flesh out the list as much as you can. Make sure to take your time with this brainstorm, because the more complete it is, the better this exercise will turn out for you.
When you’re done, look over the reasons you’ve written. These statements are the limiting beliefs you are projecting out into the universe. They are the beliefs you are carrying and focusing on that are attracting what you do not want, and they can be eliminated!
Here are a few examples of limiting beliefs I’ve encountered on love and relationships as a Law of Attraction coach:
1) You can’t trust people.
2) I’m not lovable.
3) My parents didn’t treat me well as a child.
4) I’m attracting men like my dad/women like my mother.
5) Men always cheat.
6) My friends always set me up with losers.
7) There aren’t a lot of good men to pick from in this town.
8) Women these days are lazy and expect the man to do everything.
9) I’m only attracted to bad guys.
10) I’ve got a hot body that attracts guys who only want one thing.
11) I’m afraid of commitment so I always pick unavailable men.
12) The kind of girls I want only want guys with good jobs.
12) My friends/family always give me bad advice.
13) You get the picture…
After you’ve identified your limiting beliefs, you can start to set them aside and remove your focus and attention from them. Make it your mission to stop talking about these beliefs and to stop looking for evidence of them in your life.
Stop gossiping with your girlfriends about how much you’ve been cheated on. Stop telling your mother about how all girls just want you for your money. Stop saying these statements aloud altogether, and distract yourself from conversations, television shows, stories and songs about them as much as you can. Turn away from the problems, and you will eliminate their negative momentum.
As a replacement for all of the limiting talk, start talking about the things you like about love and relationships. Look for the things that are going well in your love life, and give them a little more PR. Redirect your focus away from what is unwanted, and place it on what is going right.
In other words, make a new list. What’s going right?
Maybe you’re attracting bad boyfriends, but they’re often good kissers who are hot. Maybe you’re attracting the wrong girls but they’re often generous and do nice things for you. I guarantee that for every “bad” thing you are attracting, you’re attracting something else that’s good. Move your emphasis to the good.
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Ending your dependency on limiting beliefs will help you to stop attracting bad relationships. It’s an important part of the transformational process, and it’s a necessary step if you are wanting to change the kind of relationships you are attracting into your life.
Be mindful of your words and be mindful of your focus. Through identifying and eliminating your limiting beliefs, you will have the power to change your love life for the better.
Everyone you know deserves to have love and partnership in their lives. Stay positive about love and relationships, and encourage the people you love to do the same!
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If you’d like to learn how to use the Law of Attraction to draw in the right relationship for you, feel free to check out my love attraction course!
About Andrea Schulman
My name is Andrea Schulman , I am a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of ‘Raise Your Vibration Today.’ I teach people about the Law of Attraction with fun, clarity and success! Check out my member website to learn how to create your reality with your thoughts.
10 Benefits of Being a Social Outsider
AN OUTSIDER IS A PERSON WHO QUITE SIMPLY DOES NOT FIT IN WITH EXISTENCE-AS-WE-KNOW-IT.
Such a person is fringe dweller, a dropout of humanity, a social oddball, and an alien endlessly coexisting in a society that doesn’t feel like home. On this website, we refer to the outsider as the “loner wolf” who walks through life with a feeling of inner isolation and disconnection. This isolation often gives birth to the longing and search for freedom, acceptance, and a true place to call “home.”
Can you relate to this feeling? Have you begun this quest?
There’s a reason why you feel this way, and it’s not because there is something defective or “wrong” with you. In fact, despite what you may feel about yourself and the world, being an outsider looking in is actually a huge advantage. I’ll explain to you why.
WHY DO I FEEL LIKE AN OUTSIDER LOOKING IN?
I have asked myself this question ever since I was about 10 years old. This sensation of being an outsider was originally triggered by my social rejection at school and religious condemnation at church.
In fact, I was practically raised being taught that I was an “alien on this earth,” and that Jesus could come back at any time and take me to my “true home” in heaven. So since the time I was born I have been indoctrinated with this idea.
Yet the feeling of being an outsider runs much deeper than religious brainwashing or being classed as one of the “unpopular kids” as a child. This feeling of being an outsider looking in is intrinsic, subterranean, and seemingly fundamental to my experience as a human.
And I know that you feel it too …
… otherwise, why would you be reading this article?
You have also carried this unshakable feeling with you. Sure, at some moments and periods of life you feel contented — but this feeling of not belonging always returns. Sometimes the feeling is subtle like a softly lapping lake at twilight. Other times, the feeling is overwhelming and makes you feel trapped in a never-ending desert of complete nothingness.
But it’s always somehow there in the background: in your interactions with people, in your observations, in your dreams, desires, and motivations, at the beginning and end of your day, and when you’re surrounded by others.
I know that you know what I mean. And this very feeling was why I decided to write in the first place. In fact, the feeling of being an outsider was the very catalyst for this entire website.
There are many reasons why you could feel like an outsider, but the most significant reason is that you were either born with or developed, an awakened soul .
We were all born with souls, but not all of us continued to feel that connection as we grew older. If you have felt like an outsider for most of your life, you are almost certainly a highly sensitive and spiritually receptive person. You have experienced first hand how isolating the ego can be. You know how unnatural it is to live in a society that is obsessed with fame, status, money, and power. You know how superficial, senseless, and insane living an ego-centered life is.
But you can’t quite verbalize this. You can’t quite understand what you’re going through because you’re inundated with feelings of being “strange,” “weird,” “different,” and “unworthy.”
You long for a home that you’ve never even experienced; a place to feel completely understood, loved, and cherished.
This place is your soul.
It is your soul — the true you — that seeks to experience itself again.
In other words, deep down, what you’re really craving for is truth.
THE 10 BENEFITS OF BEING A SOCIAL OUTSIDER
Every form of soul-searching starts off with the sensation of being an outsider. In fact, it is impossible to start the spiritual journey without this feeling. Without feeling like an outsider, what would motivate you to search for a true home or sense of belonging?
The very fact that you feel like an outsider indicates that your soul is trying to guide you towards true love, understanding, and freedom.
Almost every person I’ve spoken to in my time mentoring others has identified with this feeling of being an outsider looking in. All of these people have expressed a level of soulful maturity that surpasses the average person. In other words, these people saw beyond the pretensions of others, the rat-race of daily living and felt like there was much more to life than meets the eye.
Instead of unquestionably accepting what they had been taught, these outsiders were inquisitive and curious freethinkers.
Unfortunately, we’re often taught that being an outsider is a “bad” thing, and no wonder — biologically we are made to stay within the safe confines of our species’ groups. But there comes a moment in life where “playing by the book” is seen to be a miserable and unfulfilling absurdity. (Just look at all those people who followed the rules, got a good career, wife, children, solid salary, socially-approved status … and ended up miserable, empty, lonely, killing themselves, or dying prematurely due to stress-related illnesses. I’m sure you know one, or a dozen.)
So while being an outsider may seem isolating, it is actually profoundly beneficial for your life. I wish everyone had the opportunity to feel like an outsider because being an outsider is a catalyst for self-fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-realisation .
If you have ever read the archetypal story of The Hero’s Journey from Joseph Campbell (that is repeated in every culture, time and period), you’ll realize that being an outsider is actually necessary for finding your true meaning and purpose in life. So the very fact that you feel like an outsider is actually a good sign: you’re on the right path!
It’s important that we learn to think of being a lone wolf as a good thing. Many indigenous cultures, such as those in Africa and Australia, actually encourage the younger members to go out alone in the wilderness to find themselves as a rite of passage. Without accepting that isolation is part of experiencing true connectedness, we get lost very easily. We start believing everything is wrong with us, when in fact, we are simply being driven to pursue something of more depth and spiritual significance.
If you are receptive to your soul, it is only natural that you will feel displaced in this world. But that is not necessarily a bad thing.
Here are some major benefits of being an outsider:
1) You are no longer constrained by the rules and beliefs of society as you can easily see through them.
2)You are no longer brainwashed to think and act in a certain way.
3)You have more freedom to listen to the voice within yourself more often.
4) You have enough solitude to hear and understand what your heart really wants to do.
5) You can see the bigger picture and not get lost in the details.
6) You can connect with your soul more easily than others.
7) You have been given the space and room to grow in whatever way you like.
8)You have the opportunity to experience greater connection by finding a like-minded group of people, or soul group.
9) The ability to observe others gives you a greater capacity for wisdom and also compassion.
10) You have the necessary catalyst to experience self-fulfilment and self-realisation should you choose that path.
Although being an outsider can be terribly lonely, it is a privileged position. Leaving the herd of humanity allows you to flourish and blossom in ways you never could experience while being “normal” and socially “acceptable.”
Finally, here’s a quote from Eckhart Tolle;
Being an outsider, to some extent … makes life difficult, but it also places you at an advantage as far as enlightenment is concerned. It takes you out of unconsciousness almost by force. What does being an outsider looking in mean to you?
What does being an outsider looking in mean to you?
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7 of the Most Mysterious Historical Sites on Earth Today
So many people on Earth today have started looking outward towards the stars when pondering the mysteries of the universe, including myself. Curiosity is a hallmark trait of mankind, so it makes sense that we’d want to know more about the aspects of life that elude us.
But, while there is quite a bit of knowledge yet to be learned out in the great expanses of space, there remains plenty of mystery here on Earth for us to discover and study. And it’s not in the depths of the ocean (though our oceans are mysterious in their own right--we’ve only explored about 5 percent of them).
Here are seven historical monuments that you can visit on Earth today that are still shrouded in mystery:
Lying amongst the ruins of a city that was once flourishing and prosperous, the Baalbek temple is one of the most mysterious structures to have ever been built. Why? Because it is believed that Romans did not possess the necessary technology that would allow them to create the massive stone blocks that make up the temple’s foundation.
For comparison, the largest blocks used to build the Great Pyramids in Egypt weighed an impressive 90 tons. This temple’s blocks weigh up to 1000 tons, leading some to speculate that the Egyptians helped build it or even some race of giants. Others believe it is the foundation of the Tower of Babel.
Lying at the end of the Siq Canyon is Al-Khazneh, or ‘The Treasury’ when translated from Arabic. This monumental structure was literally carved into the side of the canyon wall and reaches 900 feet above sea level. Many people believe it is a temple or a mausoleum, but the true mystery is in its construction.
A feat like this would have been nearly impossible without the use of scaffolding, a technology that the rock-carvers did not have at the time of Al-Khazneh’s creation.
The Terracotta Army, China
This fascinating tale is the discovery of some 8000 statues of Chinese soldiers and their horses buried several feet undergound. Located in the Mausoleum Qin Shi Huang, each handmade statue features incredibly acute detail, including each individual soldier having a different face and subtle changes to appearance.
Perhaps even more mysterious is the fact that scientists found incredibly high levels of mercury within the Mausoleum, lending truth to the legend that the emperor had it filled with ‘rivers of mercury’ to bring the rivers of China with him to the afterlife.
The statues of Easter Island in Chile
The name ‘moai’ refers to the giant monolithic statues carved by the Rapa Nui people on Easter Island sometime between 1250 and 1500 A.D. The mystery of these massive figures is how they were seemingly moved from one region to another. And the fact that their ritual stands weighed more than the moai themselves.
Through experimentation, it’s been deemed that these statues indeed could have been moved, but no one knows exactly how, because the last descendants of the Rapa Nui people perished in the slave trade.
Stonehenge in England
Legends would tell you that Stonehenge was erected by the mystical figure Merlin, but this structure is believed to have been built before the time of King Arthur. The biggest mystery surrounding Stonehenge is how the massive stones were moved and placed on top of one another--considering Stonehenge’s location is several hundred kilometers away from the nearest quarry.
Some believe it is a type of observatory, as the structure’s pattern mimics our solar system. Others believe it was a place of ritual for Druids and Celtic priests.
As is the case with most Mayan settlements, Tikal was hidden in the depths of the jungle. The mystery of this location is not the beautiful ponds, palaces or fields where sports were played, but the temple or pyramid-like structures. Tikal has been given the nickname ‘City of Voices’ because every single sound uttered within echoes vibrantly--even whispers.
Angkor Wat, Cambodia
The Angkor Wat structure is build with such precision that its European discoverers cast doubt that the Khmer people could have ever built it themselves. Its stones are some of the smoothest ever seen and you’d be hard pressed to find any sort of seem indicating the building blocks of construction.
Its design is also quite meticulous. The structure is a collection of some 200 temples, but to the wayward traveler approaching from its sides it looks as if there are only three temples.
Is This Video Proof of Alien Life on Mars? We'll Let You Decide
Shortly after NASA reported that they believe water on Mars was once a regular occurring thing (due to mud cracks found in an area of Mars known as “Old Soaker”), Paranormal Crucible released a video analyzing in detail the possibility of life on Mars.
The kicker? They believe they have discovered some type of ancient Martian soldier in a photograph produced by the Mars Curiosity Rover that is currently exploring the desolate red planet.
After enhancing and processing the photo in different ways, Paranormal Crucible is unsure what it is exactly that they’ve found. At first glance, it appears to be nothing more than rocks and dirt piled in a peculiar way. Upon further inspection, it starts to look more and more like a humanoid figure donning a uniform and some type of weapon.
They’ve posed the question: is this an actual life form stalking the Mars Curiosity Rover, or is this some type of statue of a soldier, long-buried over the course of time? Some have even speculated that it could be both: a soldier who was turned to stone by the devastating effects of a powerful weapon.
The video above takes a closer look at the soldier in question, as well as other interesting pieces of evidence that hint at the very real possibility of alien life living either in our solar system or on Earth itself.
What do you think about the possibility of alien life on our blue planet or the seemingly lifeless red planet?