While the narcissist and sociopath differ in a few key ways, they largely operate using many of the same phrases and words to manipulate people into getting what they want from them. While sociopaths try to control a person and everything that they do, narcissists are more interested in getting people to devote their time and energy to the narcissist.
Here are five things you will hear the narcissist and sociopath say as they manipulate someone:
”You’re just being sensitive”
One thing that both of these types enjoy doing is toying with your emotions. One second they’re all lovey and affectionate, and then the next second they’re cold and unresponsive. They can spend days and even weeks ignoring you just to see what kind of reaction they can get out of you.
Then, when you finally do react, they write you off as being “too sensitive.” They like to abuse people until they reach their tipping point, and then they turn on them. These folks can destroy even the most balanced of people.
”I don’t like drama”
As you might have learned by now, most people who say they “hate drama” actually tend to seek it out. Nevertheless, the sociopath and narcissist like to praise their victims as being easy-going and carefree. They act as though they enjoy spending time with people who are drama-free, but they have a hidden reason as to why.
What is it? So they can attack you and say that they hate drama as soon as you start calling them out on their crappy behaviors. They create the drama just so they can condemn anyone who participates in it.
”You simply misunderstood what I said”
Misunderstandings happen, sure. But they don’t happen on a regular basis. The conniving sociopath or narcissist likes to drop subtle little jabs and punches that they know will upset you, then they simply shift the blame--sometimes they will straight up deny that they even said something in the first place.
Not only is this abusive, but it’s known as ‘gaslighting,’ and they do it to make you question your own reality. Don’t second guess yourself--you heard them correctly the first time. They’re just trying to cover up their tracks.
”You know you need me / You can’t be without me”
The ultimate goal for either of these malicious types of people is to get you to believe that you simply cannot live without them. They do this by breaking your spirit slowly over the course of days, weeks, or even years. As one might imagine, this is not a healthy relationship to be in.
"You’re just being…(blank)”
Substitute in whatever word you like--crazy, bipolar, jealous, etc. The narcissist and sociopath resort to insults and name-calling when they feel as though they’re losing control of the relationship.
They like to preface each of their relationships by telling their partner about all of the “crazies” that used to be in their life. Exes, co-workers, or friends that used to be in their world, but they got rid of because of how “crazy” they were. You’ll eventually realize that all of these people were probably completely normal--it’s actually the narcissist or sociopath before you that is crazy.