Even the strongest, longest-lasting relationships have their problems. The key to their success is knowing how to openly communicate with one another. The minute you start to hide your emotions from your partner, things start to fall apart.
Communication, respect and devotion are needed to make any long-term relationship thrive. If you catch your partner saying any of the five phrases below, it might be a good idea to have a conversation about it and see what you can do to fix whatever is wrong--even if they insist nothing is wrong.
Why can’t you be like so-and-so
“Comparison is the thief of joy” is one of my favorite quotes, and it’s incredibly true. You know how much it kills you to compare yourself to others, so you should be able to understand how much it would hurt someone else. If your partner regularly compares you to someone else you need to tell them how it makes you feel and why. Hopefully they will understand.
I’m getting bored
Keeping things fresh and lively in a relationship is something everyone eventually struggles with to some degree. If your partner admits that they’re becoming bored or stagnant, try to find new things you can work on together, whether it’s small changes in a routine or finding refreshing new experiences to have together. Whatever you can do to further strengthen your bond.
You’re no longer the person I used to love
Growth is a natural part of life. When we are single, it is important for us to be growing in our own way. When we are in a relationship, individual growth is still important, but so is trying to grow the relationship. The two of you must strive to grow together instead of apart if there is to be any chance of success for your relationship.
You just don’t understand me
Admittedly, miscommunication happens once in awhile. If it’s happening all the time, both people need to take the time to truly listen to what the other is saying. Don’t just phase out what’s being said. Listen with intent to respond in a meaningful, substantial way. It’s a lonely world feeling as though your partner doesn’t ever listen to what you have to say.
Do whatever you want
Sometimes telling your partner “whatever” is okay. But, most of the time it just communicates apathy and a lack of caring. If neither of you have any strong feelings towards the choices regarding your relationship, it’s a sign that the passion is waning. Be conscious of the necessary give and take, but also strive to be assertive with each other when it’s something important for the two of you.