What is an INFJ personality and why are they so misunderstood? Are INFJs depressed?
Fans of the Myers-Briggs personality test will tell you that your personality type classification can be eerily accurate. Each type is assigned a series of four letters to identify it with each letter having a different meaning. Extraverted (E) vs. Introverted (I), Sensing (S) vs. Intuition (N), Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F) and Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P).
So, when it comes to the INFJ personality type, it’s easy to understand why they can be difficult people to deal with--their traits and characteristics contradict each other all the time!
Here are five things that make the INFJ personality type so puzzling.
The INFJ’s judging characteristic means that they are prone to organizing things in highly creative ways. On the flip side, they also have an inclination towards spontaneity. While they might start off by organizing things, including their own priorities and plans, sometimes they choose to leave these master plans behind in favor of random chance. This is why they can seemingly destroy their own plans at a moment’s notice--because they’re ready to embrace the mess.
The clash between being introverted (I) and feeling (F) leaves INFJ’s focused on their life away from their peers, friends, and family, but also in need of companionship. This is why they tend to be somewhat private people while also showing incredible sensitivity and caring towards others. Some days the INFJ just wants to be alone; other days they want to have deep sessions of socialization that see them having meaningful conversations.
The conflict between rationality and creativity is that the INFJ is chock-full of amazing ideas, but often ridicules and criticizes them before they have a chance to come to fruition. This is why they often start grand projects or begin to chase big dreams, only to quit them halfway through. They’re also quite sensitive when criticized by others; they’re afraid of it. So, they will sometimes keep their creative sides to themselves, which can see them become unhappy or depressed.
The INFJ’s strong inclination towards justice will often see them standing up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. If an INFJ doesn’t think something is fair or just, they’ll undoubtedly fight to make things right. On the other hand, when the injustice is happening with them they sometimes find it hard to want to fight for themselves. This is often due to low self-esteem.
INFJ’s tend to be relaxed, easygoing and harmonious people, except when it comes to things that require order and perfection. The judging (J) aspect of the INFJ lends to their strong system of values and need to be perfect. The intuitive (I) side of the INFJ lends to their carefree, spontaneous side. Together, this makes the INFJ a strange mix of “I don’t care” and “I care quite a bit.”