Emotional abuse is when one partner exploits other partner's emotions for their own benefit. It is as mentally draining as any other kind of abuse in a relationship.
Not every relationship is like a fairytale. There are many people who fall in love with the wrong ones and got their entire world wrecked. When you fall in love with someone, you not only put your heart and mind in front of them, but you take off all the layer, one by one till you have bared your soul to them. And if you bare your soul to someone wrong, you know your life is in trouble, as you become the victim of an abusive relationship.
Unfortunately, more and more cases of abusive relationships are seen today. Not just these relationships ruin your emotional and mental balance, if these signs are ignored for long, then it starts showing its adverse effects on your physical well-being also.
Some don't even realize that they have become a victim of any kind of abuse because they have lived that way, their entire life. And those, who know that they are being abused, rarely conjure the guts to fight against it. There are different kinds of abuses people go through while they are in a toxic relationship with their partner.
There are different kinds of abuses partners go through that includes— emotional abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and mental abuse. Out of these, the hardest to identify are verbal, mental and emotional, as these do not have physical scars or prominent wounds to prove anything.
Each of these abuses is equally devastating, wrong, unfair, and a crime. But the questions are, is it okay to ignore abuses that destroy the soul in the ugliest way possible? Or, are you even aware that you are being emotionally abused by your partner?
Scars, wounds, bruises, and pain that are visible to the world's naked eyes hold more significance and importance vis-à-vis torture, pain, exhaustion and numbness that come in emotionally abusive relationships.
Not to contest the fact that nothing is justified when it comes to any kind of abuse, verbal, mental and emotional abuses often get overlooked. Emotional abuse does not come with gender but comes with a complicated mind and unkind soul.
A partner who is a victim in an abusive relationship loses their self-esteem, confidence, value, and respect for themselves, as their partner constantly hits them with their negative, bad and toxic comments which exploit their partner's emotions.
It is so toxic most of the time, that the person who is the victim ends up feeling responsible for everything going bad in the relationship. They dive into the well of guilt, repent and everything that they don't deserve. Slowly they start seeing fault with everything they do, unknowingly that it is not their but it is the other partner who is at fault.
Emotional abuse is when one partner exploits other partner's emotions for their own benefit. It is when the partner tries to control the other using verbal and emotions as their weapon, in the same way, it happens in a physically abusive relationship, where a partner tries to control the other by punching, hitting, beating, pinching and physical harm.
The perpetrators of emotional abuse do not generally know that they are being abusive in their relationship. They might be aware of the insecurities, doubts and whether or not their partner loves them, they are compelled to accuse, blame and make a person feel bad for their unhappiness, helplessness. The accusations, the blame and constant doubts leading to checking phones and texts, all come under emotional abuse.
Another example of emotional abuse is when a partner wants the best for their partner and therefore, wants their partner to look in a certain way in front of the world, they constantly use their mocking, criticizing and harsh way of making their partners listen to them.
They are the perpetrators who also sometimes threaten the other to listen to them, and they verbally attack them, hitting the weakest emotional part of them. In an emotionally abusive relationship, the perpetrators are the ones who control the other partner, just the way humans control their car's steering wheel.
The victims, tend to ignore such situations thinking of it as a matter of short time fights, however, they do not realize how these abuses destroy their soul and make them the worst version they could be. The perpetrators suck the soul's confidence every time they verbally hurt them. Things become hard for victims to raise a voice, in this case, is because they confuse those abuses with love and 'people who love the most have the power to hurt the most too', therefore, completely letting their abusive partner ruin them.
It works the same way as physical abuses, and the abuse cycle has the same pattern too— once the victim understand what's happening and tries to raise their voice or fight against it, the perpetrator, since has their power on them, immediately becomes apologetic and romantic, trying to woo them back to the dark rut.
They will try their best to pamper their target and will make sure to gain their confidence back by promising of not repeating the mistake of hurting them ever again. However, they also are very well aware of the fact that their partners are stupid in love, therefore it doesn't take much time for them to practice their cruelty over their fooled partners.
No matter how vicious this cycle is, only a person who knows and is aware of their own value will be able to come out of it. Victims who are aware of the good things they deserve without putting their happiness in the hands of their abusive partner can only fight for their right and justice.
It is impossible for those victims to take a stand for themselves, who have surrendered themselves, along with their self-respect and self-love to their monstrous partners. It is, however, important to understand that any relationship which is abusive does not deserve the time and love people have got in them.