5 Differences Between Being Happy And Being Perfect Which We Don't Even Realize

5 Differences Between Being Happy And Being Perfect Which We Don't Even Realize

We waste time running after things like excellence to have a perfect life and find ourselves in a position where we are anxious all the time and unhappy too.

“If you look for perfection, you'll never be content.” 
― Leo Tolstoy

Those words aren't mere words, but they are the truth we all have been missing out on. Every day we spend our time, hoping and wanting to have a perfect life. Therefore, we push ourselves into becoming the perfect example of the term PERFECTION. But we barely give ourselves the time to ask whether we are really happy, or we are just running after excellence. Because the truth of the matter is, perfection is unattainable as nothing in this world can be perfect. 

We waste time running after things like excellence to have a perfect life and find ourselves in a position where we are anxious all the time and unhappy too. We are letting the desire to have everything perfect spoil what we really have as ours. Our job, relationship, family, friends and even ourselves-  we let the perfectionist in us blind us from the things that could have made us happy and content in first place. We put our high expectations into some of the major parts of our life spoiling everything that could have made our lives beautiful. We should STOP doing that, here and now.

1. The Perfect Job

“Everything that looks too perfect is too perfect to be perfect.” ― Dejan Stojanovic

A job that gives plenty of holidays, handsome pay, understanding colleagues and less pressure to our mind is the kind of job every one of us wants. Therefore, having a job which does not offer all of these, make us a failure in front of our own eyes. Soon we find ourselves disappointed and unhappy in the job that is helping us to pay our bills. We crib, we complain, we whine all the time just because we don't have the perfect job that gives us the kind of life our fancy friends are having. 


But, having a job is any day better than having no job at all. We need to be able to accept things that we have, instead of hoping for things we don't, because living in present is all that should matter. Striving to work more and learn more can only happen if we accept the job we have, along with the discomfort and hardship it brings in our lives. No matter what kind of job we have, if it does not make us happy, it is not worth our time. However, we should first be able to know what makes us happy and not be anxious if we do not have the perfect job. 

2. The Perfect Relationship 

“You'll end up living a lonely life if you're waiting around for perfect.” ― Samantha Young, 

We have grown up watching fairytales and romantic movies all our lives, and those elements have influenced our definition of love and relationship. We tend to look for that perfect relationship which we believe is true, and therefore, impose our high expectations on our partners. We start fighting with our partner because they are not able to stand to our expectations. They are not able to meet our high expectation because we want them to be like us- perfect and up-to-the-mark. But being that way is tiring for people who are not a big fan of perfection and therefore, the relationship falls apart. 


A relationship is made of two imperfect people who accept each other's flaws and demerits with pride and openness. Two people who are in love with each other should find contentment in their company, instead of struggling to impress each other in the fear of not being left by their partner. No one can be perfect, and it is important to know that the flaws and imperfection we have is what makes us whole and beautiful. It is unjust and unfair on our part to put our partner's through the agony of becoming a perfect lover. 

3. The Perfect Family

“You'll end up living a lonely life if you're waiting around for perfect.” -Samantha Young, 

A family is comprised of different people who have their own nature, behavior, and habits. The foundation of a family should be based on embracing each other's existence and imperfections. Every family has their own struggles, and problems. A family that embraces togetherness more than anything else in this world knows how to value the imperfect child, husband, mother, and parents.


We often hear mothers complaining about their child not being good at keeping the house clean, and we often hear children complaining about their parents being over-concerned for them-these are the imperfections which should be celebrated, instead of hurting each other for not being able to meet the high expectation. A mother should be able to accept the flaws in her child, no matter how old her child is, and vice versa. Teaching each other to be perfect is only going to make life harder. However, teaching each other to live proudly through the imperfections of the people we love only makes us stronger.

4. The Perfect 'Me'

 "Too late, I found you can't wait to become perfect, you got to go out and fall down and get up with everybody else.” -Ray Bradbury

We often do not realize, but we choose to be hard on ourselves most of the time because we strive each day to become the perfect version of ourselves, instead of becoming a better version of ourselves. Perfection makes life hard because we want everything to be up to the mark- our clothes, our bags, our house, our car, our skin, our body-literally everything. It is dangerous because society has influenced the definition of 'perfect' for each of those things. A perfect body according to the world is having a zero figure, without any blemish and marks, and toned body.


Therefore, we exhaust our body to fit in the definition of beauty and perfection, that we are anguished most of the time. We are paranoid all the time when things start going out of our hand and not the way we want to, making our life cumbersome by killing the peace. What is the point of having a life where we are continuously looking for perfection which does not even exist? It's like Samuel Beckett’s 'Waiting For Godot' who never actually proves to exist but the perpetual wait continued. Embracing the scars, blemishes, and flaws should make us happy, always.

5. The Perfect Life 

“Life isn’t meant to be lived perfectly…but merely to be LIVED. Boldly, wildly, beautifully, uncertainty, imperfectly, magically LIVED.” -Mandy Hale

Everything now comes down to the fact that running after perfection only makes our lives troublesome. There are many things we cannot control in this world, even for ourselves. To have a perfect life, we would want to control things according to how we want certain things to be. However, not everything can be controlled, can it? 


Our main aspect should be making the most of the imperfect life we have, by embracing the imperfections we possess. The focus should be to feel content than to feel incomplete and unaccomplished most of the time. Like Shannon L. Alder explained, “There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.” 

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