Wouldn't you be making your own life happier if you started finding happiness in things that life serves you?
Ever since you have started living your life on your own, you tend to ask yourself a question that never had a definite answer, and that is, 'What is the true meaning of Life?' The lessons that you have assimilated so far have made you the person you are today, and it is yours to judge whether you have become the best version of yourself or still need working.
However, there is indeed one answer to the art of living, and it is none other than 'Acceptance'. The day we start accepting the life we have the way it is, we will be able to focus on salient things that are there in our life. Life becomes hard when you start finding flaws and issues in everything going wrong, instead of accepting it. When you accept, you push yourself into finding solutions and elucidations, rather than complaining and stressing.
But have you ever wondered why is it so hard to accept things the way they are? It is so because you strive to be happy. Happiness is something that has the power to make anyone greedy because- who doesn't want to be happy? As Dalai Lama said, “The purpose of our lives is to be happy." But happiness can only come to those who know the power of acceptance. Only when you accept things the way they are, you will be able to find happiness in little things, as well as valuable things.
You always want to have the best body, best life, the perfect partner, perfect job, and soon you are stuck in a room of unfulfilled desires, hopes and wants. For an example, you might want to do something extraordinary on your birthday, but for some reason, you fail to effectuate your plan and end up doing something low-key for your special day. Feeling disheartened is obvious here, but feeling that you are unlucky and life is unfair, isn't the right way to ponder.
Accepting whatever you get in any such circumstances that aren't under your control is what that matters. Wouldn't you be making your own life happier if you started finding happiness in things that life serves you? However, it is also understandable that happiness is subjective and you might have a different way of looking at life. But there is one thing that remains constant and that is the happiness anyone gets from accepting the things, family, friends, and themselves the way they are.
As this beautiful quote explains, you can only contain the beauty in you by accepting the way you are. Modification and alteration are only going to take you away from the organic person you were. There is a difference between changing yourself for the betterment, and changing yourself because you are not content with what, and how you have.
For an example, you might have insecurities that you feel threatened by, most of the time. It could be anything- your body, your hair, your accent, your knowledge. Though there is nothing bad in working hard to achieve what you want and hoped for, however, what is wrong is when you start exhausting your body and mind by running after things that are approved by the society and that does not define you. There is another beauty in accepting the rawness you have along with all the flaws and scars. Your original story is what people would want to know, and not some random untrue story that you make up just to drive their attention.
Just like you, your family, your parents, your friends, and your lovers have flaws. Flaws that make them look different from you. Imperfections that make them unique. You know things don't matter if you don't share a genuine and a transparent bond with your loved ones. Would you like your lover to pretend that they like traveling, even though they don't, just because you like it? That would be unfair, wouldn't it be?
You can only share an amicable relationship with anyone, including yourself, the day you accept that you all are a combination of different flaws altogether, instead of feeling unloved and hurt just because others don't want the same thing as you do. The day you accept the person the way they are- short-tempered, sad, complicated- that would be the day you will be able to help them evolve. Else, how will you able to help any of your loved ones, if you, at first place, don't want to accept them the way they are?