Breakups and exes take a prolonged time to get over your head, but did you know that every unsuccessful relationship, teaches you things that technically should make you thank your ex?
If you ever had gone through breakups, you would know the unbearable pain and suffocation your mind, heart, and body go through. Those crucial part of your life that you invested in your relationship with your ex meant something valuable to you, and above anything—you were madly in love. Some relationships end up ugly, some peacefully and some kills you with every passing day. Breakups and exes take a prolonged time to get over your head, but did you know that every unsuccessful relationship, no matter how good or bad, teaches you things that technically should make you thank your ex? Here's how your ex no matter how bad and evil, changed you for good.
Your previous relationships might have taught you to be more observant and cautious about things. Before committing to someone new, you will take your time to observe their gestures, behavior, nature and above anything, you will take your own time to see how much they respect your choices, decisions and your beliefs. In short, you will take a while to fall in love with the person, after going through a bad breakup.
After having gone through humiliations, embarrassment, hurt and disrespect in your previous relationship, you have become more aware of yourself. Sometimes breakup takes away your self-esteem, confidence, and positivity because of which you take a long time to heal. But, when you do heal, you tend to become a new version for whom compromising with your own choices, desires, wishes and wants no longer remain an option.
A bad relationship teaches the real deal, and the lessons you have learned start reflecting on every relationship you share with people in your life. Be it your parents, friends and new partner, you become your own ruler. Your life's steering no longer is controlled or driven by someone else, but you. Every decision you make, you do not let someone else control your mind and choices, as by now, your ex has taught you about the consequences of letting someone else has the control over you.
You might have thought that you will never be able to get over your ex, and never again in life, you will ever fall in love again. Those sleepless nights when you cried yourself to sleep feeling that you will not be able to live without your ex, made you what you are today, and that is- STRONG. The pain you went through, made you stronger, and now people will find hard to shake you.
After the breakup, you now know how dangerous and risky things become when you make someone else your whole world. You realize it only when you do not find the person (ex) there when you need them the most. It is only then when you understand and learn how to deal with your own emotions, feelings, and problems. It is only then, you understand that depending on someone else for any kind of comfort can be a risky thing to do. Therefore, you tend to become independent in every sense possible and become your own healer.