Individuals who indulge in cheating often blame their partners for unfaithfulness more than people who are the victims of infidelity blame themselves.
Why do people cheat? There are so many answers that come rushing into your mind when you hear that question. Infidelity, unfortunately, is very common in today's time. It has impacted up to 25% of marriages and even more percentages of dating and live-in relationships. Sexual infidelity is something that has become the hardest to cure today. People who cheat, find their actions morally justified because of moral hypocrisy that allows them to rationalize their misbehavior. When they do so, they are potentially increasing the chances of future infidelities.
Moral hypocrisy is when you judge your own wrongdoings as less unethical and immoral than the identical wrongdoings of others, indicating moral double-standards. People who sexually cheat on their partners believe that what they have committed is justified and their infidelities are less blameworthy and less damaging to their partners and relationships. In fact, individuals who indulge in cheating often blame their partners for unfaithfulness more than people who are the victims of infidelity blame themselves.
Not only that, those who indulge in cheating on their partners often blame the external circumstances more than those who become the victim of infidelity. People who are not loyal to their partners often underestimate the emotional damage on their partners, in spite of their partners going through a traumatizing emotional unbalance. Often relationships fall apart when either of the two partners does not feel the same kind of love anymore like they felt at the beginning of their relationship. Not being able to invest properly in their relationship, and not getting what they want from the partner, they tend to consider infidelity the only option.
Moral hypocrisy gives people an excuse to cheat that make them feel less guilty about their wrongdoings. They reduce the blame on themselves and undermine the hurt and emotional trauma that they had caused to their partners. The perpetrators are individuals who are not aware of their self-serving biases. When people start blaming others for their wrong acts, it becomes a serious concern as there is nothing that can be done. There are two self-deceptions that people who are moral hypocrites believe in. The first one being the fact that they misperceive their behavior as moral and the second one being that they avoid comparing their behavior with moral standards.
The story of marriages and relationships breaking up because of infidelity is something which is very common. Famous celebrities like Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, Todd Courser and Cindy Gamrat, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver, Bill and Hillary Clinton, they all have been either the victims or perpetrators in their relationship shocking the entire world with their infidelity stories.
Every relationship has its own flaws and imperfections. Some have serious issues, some have issues that can be sorted. People find solace and comfort in the third party when they go through bad times with their partners. Regular fights, misunderstandings, trust issues, anger issues and many more are some of the major ingredients that are responsible for spoiling the relationship. When both partners are unhappy in a relationship, they start looking for people who give them all those things which they have been missing in their legit relationship for a long time.
It is indeed an amazing feeling to find someone who understands us, who is there when we need them, who helps us to get through bad times, and therefore, soon we find ourselves getting attached and attracted to the person who is not our partner. We start comparing our partner's flaws with the new person's abilities, that gives us the strength to indulge in infidelity while we are already in a relationship.
While we indulge in such immoral act of ours, we constantly remind ourselves that we are in no way the wrongdoers, and it is okay if we are finding our comfort and happiness with someone else rather than our partner. However, no act of disloyalty is justified if it is committed by keeping the other person in dark. For people who are accustomed to cheating onto their partners in a relationship should be able to accept their habit of infidelity and look for open relationships. People who often indulge in extra-affairs are indeed morally hypocrites as they are blind to the damage they cause to their partners.