Marriage is considered to be a 'big deal' and very 'serious' as couples believe that it is after marriage the real work starts. But the real work begins when the honeymoon phase of the relationship gets over.
They say marriage is the biggest commitment of a relationship. It shows that the couple who have been together and are madly in love takes this big step to start their 'real' life. Although many say that it is after marriage that the real journey begins, it is right during your courtship period when you embark on a real journey. Once the honeymoon phase passes away then you slowly start to understand the raw and real deal.
Love has the power to make anything beautiful. A relationship unfolds umpteen feelings if nurtured with love and compassion. All those times when you were love, everything seemed magical, didn’t it? It was all about how and what all you and your partner did, to nurture and build the relationship. The day you fell in love with your partner, and your partner held your hands and promised to never leave you- that was the day when you both tied yourself with eternal compassion and responsibility.
Today, people fall in love, then move into a relationship with the hope of getting married. Marriage is considered to be a 'big deal' and something 'serious' as couples believe that it is after marriage the real work starts. What is even more bizarre about marriages is the fact that you look at it as a final destination where you want to 'settle' down with your partner. It becomes the only goal, deadline, curfew and time that becomes the ultimate destination sidetracking you but keeping your love and relationship with your partner at the center.
However, the question is- what changes after marriage that you fear isn’t there in the relationship you are in with your partner? What makes you and your partner so unsure about the relationship you share presently, that you think only marriage can seal the deal? To celebrate togetherness, one needs just each other and no entitlement, validations, clarification, and boundaries to define what they already have.
Perhaps marriage is a constitution that is there to not celebrate what you and your partner have but to seek approval from the world without breaking the laws, religious beliefs, taboo, stigmas, conservative mentality, and biased ideologies. Going with why marriage is of the utmost importance, it perhaps means that simply loving your partner and being in a committed relationship do not hold any obligations and responsibilities. It certainly hints that what you have right now with your partner is not equals to the authenticity that comes with marriage.
The matter of truth is when you are in a romantic and loving relationship with your partner, it means the same kind of responsibility, commitment, love, understanding, loyalty, and perseverance are needed. What you have right now, is the only thing you will have later. The idea of settling down with your partner shouldn’t be based on how soon or late you’re getting married but should be based on understanding and companionship.
Your love and connection with your partner need no institution. Marriage in a way undermines what you have with your partner now. You should be able to celebrate love and partnership with the world and your closed ones- you should throw a party to tell the world that you both love each other to the moon and the back. Your celebration would have been an assurance for you and your family that you are in love, that you trust each other with all your heart and mind.
A celebration that promises every little thing you plan on doing together, every laugh and tears shared together will be a vow to stay together till the end of time. A companionship that will help you both grow in life for the better. Relationships are fragile, just like people tend to look at marriages to be. Whatever expectations and wishes you have, you can enjoy it while you are in a serious relationship with your partner, instead of waiting for the 'right time which is marriage, as a good time to live and love.